So you want to know our secret and how you can travel with friends?
“We are Four Friends One World. We believe life is about creating experiences and the pursuit of adventure. Richness is derived from embracing adventure and growing together from the shared experiences. Why walk the world in another person’s shoes when you can walk alongside them and see the world through their eyes.” Four Friends One World
The idea of traveling with friends can be very appealing. Obviously you like your friends, otherwise, you would not classify them as such.
However, you must remember the benefits of traveling with friends go hand in hand with the risks. To put it another way, just because you enjoy hanging out or connecting regularly with your friends, does not mean you will maintain that positive relationship on an extended 24/7 basis.
Most vacations will see you spending every hour of every day for 1 or more week/s together. So what tips do the four friends have to help you keep things harmonious and fun?
We know that some people simply cannot travel in groups, whether it’s because of an unwillingness to let go of total control, or not wanting to upset others by speaking up about what they want to do. Fortunately, for our Four Friends traveling together is effortless and enjoyable. So we are constantly asked how do we make it work? The answer is quite simple really – communication and compromise is the key.
It would be fair to say that we are like minded and have been friends for a very long time. We are easy going and aligned with our interests, we generally want to see and do similar things and most importantly we trust one another. One key component is we are motivated to experience our travels to the fullest. We aren’t people who sleep in or spend weeks lounging by the pool, and thus we are happy to optimize time and be highly active on our trips. This might not appeal to your style of travel and it is important that you find friends who share your methods.
Our holidays so far have all included 2 or more cities (or countries) to keep things fair and fun, each couple will take it in turns to plan sightseeing. It might be a Day by Day plan, or a destination by destination plan. This allows each couple to take the lead while the other couple can sit back and relax. It also gives us the opportunity to let go of control and let the other couple lead us to new and exciting experiences, which we might hot have experienced without them.
As the years have rolled by, we have, oh dear, gotten older (maybe wiser?). The things we want to do have changed. When we first started traveling we wanted big nights out whereas now, we prefer a quiet dinner, great wine and conversation. Often calling it a night well before 1am. We are lucky that we both grew out of our party phase at the same time. It can cause a lot of conflicts if a group is not aligned on their “hours of operation.” Keep that in mind when you are evaluating if you can travel with a friend or group of friends.
We do like different activities and experiences. We take two strategies when our interests and desires diverge. Firstly we agree to try something different for the sake of a great group experience. This does force those who are on the surface not interested or event fearful to take a leap and try something new. It has almost always paid off for everyone, we support each other through the challenges and encourage each other to grow by pushing our boundaries and comfort levels. However, if we decide the divide is to wide to compromise on and we separate for the day to experience different activities. While the second situation is very rare, it should not be viewed as a failure. We love to push each other to experience new things. But true friends understand that everyone has limits and there should be no judgment or animosity when we separate.
We feel extremely blessed that we have friends who we can share the adventure with. There has never ever been one fight, one argument or not even a raised voice. We haven’t even complained behind one another’s back, you might call it lucky – we call it friendship, respect, and love.